A Life Lesson We All Need

Dated: January 15 2020

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Every year, when reviewing my goals and business plan, I can never forget this old story - The Mayonnaise Jar.  This story was presented to me several years ago, and impacted my life dramatically.  I want to share this with all my friends and colleagues, and hope that it impacts you as much as it has me.  

The story's origin is unknown, but has been shared online with different variations.  Here is the story in its entriety:

When things in your lives seem almost too much to handle, when 24 hours in a day are not enough, remember the mayonnaise jar and the two cups of coffee.

A professor stood before his philosophy class and had some items in front of him. When the class began, he wordlessly picked up a very large and empty mayonnaise jar and proceeded to fill it with golf balls. He then asked the students if the jar was full. They agreed that it was.

The professor then picked up a box of pebbles and poured them into the jar. He shook the jar lightly. The pebbles rolled into the open areas between the golf balls. He then asked the students again if the jar was full. They agreed it was.

The professor next picked up a box of sand and poured it into the jar. Of course, the sand filled up everything else. He asked once more if the jar was full. The students responded with an unanimous "yes."

The professor then produced two cups of coffee from under the table and poured the entire contents into the jar, effectively filling the empty space between the sand. The students laughed.

"Now," said the professor as the laughter subsided, "I want you to recognize that this jar represents your life. The golf balls are the important things — your family, your children, your health, your friends and your favorite passions — and if everything else was lost and only they remained, your life would still be full. The pebbles are the other things that matter like your job, your house and your car. The sand is everything else — the small stuff.

"If you put the sand into the jar first," he continued, "there is no room for the pebbles or the golf balls. The same goes for life. If you spend all your time and energy on the small stuff you will never have room for the things that are important to you.

"Pay attention to the things that are critical to your happiness. Play with your children. Take time to get medical checkups. Take your spouse out to dinner. Play another 18. There will always be time to clean the house and fix the disposal. Take care of the golf balls first — the things that really matter. Set your priorities. The rest is just sand."

One of the students raised her hand and inquired what the coffee represented.

The professor smiled. "I'm glad you asked. It just goes to show you that no matter how full your life may seem, there's always room for a couple of cups of coffee with a friend."

I can tell you from personal experience losing my parents in an auto accident too young in their lives, life is in fact too short. Live life with happiness and to the fullest.  And take care of your golf balls - the sand will settle on its own.

So, did you learn a value life lesson today?  Let me know by commenting your "#1 golf ball"...(and not a Titleist :) )

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Melvin Drury

After obtaining an Accounting degree at the University of Kentucky, Mel practiced as a Certified Public Accountant in Southern California and Kentucky prior to being introduced to the real estate indu....

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